You have a Choice

Many of us think in life there are no choices, life is random and that you just have to be happy where you are. But if you find that you are not happy, that each day is filled with angst, then you must look at your situation, go within to see what is keeping you from being happy. Many times it is just our thoughts about a situation or it is time for a change. 


When we feel restlessness, turmoil, anxiety, that is our spirit trying to tell us something isn't right.  We are either not happy about what we are doing, who we are with, or not expressing ourselves to our ability.  Sometimes it can be simply our thoughts about a situation.  


You have heard the phrase that if you can't change your situation, then change your thoughts about it.  For example, say you have to do something in 2 weeks that you really don't want to do.  We will say, Jury Duty.  You can't get out of it, you have to go.  Well instead of attaching your version of how it will be, to it, then just take one day at a time and say, "This might be interesting, if everything happens for a reason, then who knows what could come of it"  Accept it, move on.  Most times things are never as bad as they seem to the mind.  Once it is over and done with we think, "That wasn't as bad as I thought it would be."  


There are also other areas of our lives where our choices become clear.  You might not always choose the peaceful choice, but just knowing that you had a choice brings the power back to you.  Another example of this might be; you are waiting in a very long line at the grocery store.  You can see there are just a few cashiers, there is nothing you can do but wait.  Now one choice you have is you can start getting irritable, start taking deep breathes, (the body can feel this tension and reacts right away) you can start complaining to the people beside you, (they are also picking up your tension and therefore becoming tense as well).   But there is another choice you have.  You realize that you are stuck in this line anyway, regardless of how you are feeling, it will still move at the same rate, so you decide to be relaxed and patient.  You even start talking to the people next to you and they start to feel relaxed too.


There are definitely times in our lives when we must make a change.  Sometimes just feeling secure isn't enough.  So many of us, are sure that life is just meant to be miserable, that we should just be happy that we feel secure.  But, we are meant to live a life of joy.  Each one of us has gifts that we can share with the world.  The Universe is just waiting for you to decide that you are ready to step away from the illusion of security and live a life of freedom and joy.  It doesn't have to be big, but just getting out and stepping beyond the 4 walls that most times keeps our world enclosed.  Take a class, start walking, share the gifts you have.  We always have that choice, sometimes it is just about moving out of our comfort zone.  


We can also be in relationships where the other person does not want us to grow, to move forward on our journey.  They want us to be the version of who they think we should be in their eyes.  They control who we talk to, what we like to do.  This can be a toxic relationship.  Remember, people only control us, if we allow them to.  Know that you have the power at any point and time to change your life, to be happy.  


In life we are always told to respect others, but many of us do not respect ourselves or our journey.  In order for us to really be able to love, we must love ourselves.  We see people who seem so happy and we think, "Why can't that be me?"   It can be you, look at the choices before you.  It is not easy, sometimes the hardest things we do can bring the best results, just taking those steps can seem scary and overwhelming, but you will see a path open up for you.  


Be the best version of who you are, make choices that are for your highest good.  Realize that this life and what we learn from it, is important.  You are important.