More on Relationships

Never sell yourself short in a relationship, be choosy.  It is okay to like someone, but really look if they are a good match for you in a relationship.  If there are things that really conflict with your own intuition or liking, never assume you can change a person. Don't come from a place of lack and feel the need to just cling to someone out of loneliness, or accept someone that clearly does not seem to really listen to you, really care. Because if there is a true connection, this person will want to get to know you, there will be no rush to do thinks too quickly.  Relationships need time to flourish, the more time we take to get to know the person we are with, it is much easier to see if you are a good fit.

It is hard to look at others with their boyfriends or spouses and not think, "I want that"  but with all things in life, patience and trust is key.  Trust you are where you are meant to be at the moment.  Get to know your own joys in life.  If you like your own company, then you are connecting to all of you.  This is vital in a good relationship, when we start to feel like half a person because we don't have someone, then we tend to be blinded by things in a relationship which are not healthy for us.  We overlook many things that could lead to you losing who you are completely.  A relationship should add to your life, it should enhance who you are.  There is always someone out there that will love us just as we are.  Don't compare your life to others lives.  If you are now alone, just know somewhere down the road you will meet a partner that will suit you perfectly, no need to keep searching and searching.  It will happen when you least expect it, so in the meantime just use this time to go within and learn all about you!  Your likes, wants and desires.  Don't look at this time wasted until you find someone, use this wonderful time.

Don't ever think that if you meet someone and there are things you don't like, that you can change that person.  Most times this is never the case, they are who they are.  There is nothing wrong with bringing along another point of view, we can learn much from each other, but there are times when you can clearly see, this is just who they are.

And last, but not least.  Never underestimate how wonderful you are.  You are worthy of a good loving relationship with someone who loves the authentic you!!  Don't lose you, by trying to be something your not in a relationship.  Always be you.  Someone will love you for you, even if your too chatty, even if you love to collect stuffed animals, if you sometimes have a temper.  YOU are good enough, sure we all have room for growth, but there are some true authentic things about ourselves that make us endearing and someone will come along who will appreciate that.  Just be patient and remember to enjoy this time.  Get to know the person you spend the MOST time with, who is with you every step of the way, who will always have your back, YOU!!  ;)  Just because you might be alone at this moment, doesn't mean you have to feel lonely.

May you find the love within you, and like a magnet that love will lead you to the perfect match for you!!